Be the present by being present.
If I give you a diamond necklace, or any gift, I signal my love.
If I spend a day, an evening, or even a single hour, with you totally immersed in your needs and interests–in just being with you and allowing everything to be all about you–I express my love.
Love is energy–a force–power–passion.
But it is not merely erotic, because lust and eroticism are mostly concerned with pleasing yourself first. Therefore, a lust for anything–money, power, excitement, sexual gratification, attention, status, etc.–is inherently selfish, sometimes at the expense of others.
Here’s a hint: if, when you picked out the gift for your “valentine,” your thoughts were about how good it would make you look in their eyes, the gift was more about you than about them. Just sayin’. (By the way, this trait is not gender specific.)
To me, an INPowering love is one in which I focus on what benefits others without thinking about what I’m going to get out of it.
An INpowering love allows me to look for the best in others, to believe in their inherent goodness, to be on their side and sincerely cheer for their success and happiness.
An INPowering love drives out envy, jealousy, and the need to be judgmental.
An INPowering love offers itself generously for the taking. No repayment necessary.
An INPowerng love causes me to be helpful, concerned, compassionate, kind, polite, forgiving, and accepting, among other qualities.
When we express an INPowering love, we are the present.
And we become more
How will you express your love?
Last summer my daughter called to ask if I could help my eight-year old granddaughter with a story she had written about a puppy. The most interesting part of this to me was that no one told her to write a story. She just wanted to. She had typed it out on her tablet, and my daughter happened to see it by chance.
My granddaughter editing puppy story.
We worked on it together. But all I did was asked her some questions affecting the continuity of the story, and she came up with her revisions.
My granddaughter decided she wanted to make the story into a book and sell it. Her mother helped her put it into a little booklet. She then “sold” it to family and friends and collected $250, which she donated to a local animal shelter.
How old do you have to be to be INPowered? How old do you need to be to make a difference?
I was substitute teaching in a high school class recently, and I asked the students how old they thought they must be before they could make a difference in the world? Most of them said 21. A few of them were on the same wavelength with me and picked younger ages. What disservice have we adults done to leave the impression that one must wait until the magic age of 21 before they can make a difference?
I told them about Maya Penn, who I had just met watching TED Talk presentations.
Maya Penn giving a TED Talk
Used by permission
Now thirteen, Maya started a business when she was eight, making fashion accessories from recycled materials. That led to an interest in the environmental impact of the textile industry. Watch her tell her story.
Want more from Maya? Check her website, Maya’s Ideas.
Then I found Adora Svitak who wrote her first book when she was four. Now, she speaks to adults about how they can learn from children.
Watch Adora’s TED Talk.
I vote for being “childish.”
INPowerment knows no age limits. GenYers, I keep hearing that you want to be respected by your elders. Why wait? No one is keeping you from taking the initiative to show what you can do to make things better for yourself and others. No reason to wait for permission. (See my previous post, Permission granted.) Respect from the people who matter won’t be a problem.
Most of all, you will be