Shower love

Shower love

America’s troubadour, James Taylor, sings, “shower the ones you love with love.”

Group of young friends

In a world punctuated by war and strife, driven and fueled by the wanton passions of greed, conquest, and self-adulation, we can find healing only in the balm of love, sweet love. As Burt Bacharach wrote, “It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.”

The opposite of love

Fear, not hate, is the opposite of love. Hate is a by-product of fear.

Fear focuses on loss, and no one wants to lose anything. Ideologies that scare followers into a state of protectionism usually engage others as adversaries who threaten to steal away valuable resources or liberties. Such adversaries are to be identified, separated out, and kept at a safe distance, if not eliminated altogether. They are to be hated.

Hate shows itself in vilification (it’s their fault, they caused this, they are the enemy), denigration (they are losers, disgusting, unworthy), and, aggression (we must take back what is ours, and eye-for-an-eye, get them before they get us, they deserve to be punished). And on it goes.

Leaders who feast on your fear subjugate you to their power, because they convince you that only they can save you. They tell you not to go out into the world, not to befriend or trust those who are different from you, not to listen to those politically correct, feckless, kumbaya losers. Who needs hope when you’ve got more muscle?

Tyrants know the only way they stay in power is to keep groups of people fighting each other. All that’s driving the rage are the ambitions of a few power hungry individuals convincing the populace that they need to be afraid of the other guy who is out to get them. It’s my opinion that 95% of the world’s problems are caused by 0.0001% of the world’s population.

These fear mongers scoff at love, because to them it’s weak. And they know it’s the only thing that can bring them down.

Love conquers

The power of love is that it sees every person as an individual with hopes, and dreams, and passion–just like you. Love regards each and every life as equally valuable without exception. When you regard every life as equally valuable and precious as yours, it makes one wonder why all the fighting? How do we just stop it?

When you reduce life to the number one wish, it’s that we all want someone to love, and to be loved in return. When you have that one thing, your life has meaning. That’s all it really takes.

When we all reach out in love to those within our sphere of influence, we can conquer the world with hugs and smiles. Love conquers fear. With nothing to fear, there’s no reason to fight.

According the theory of six degrees of separation, it’s entirely possible to save the world by reaching out to those closest to us. See what I mean from this YouTube video on the Veritasium channel.

Thank you, James, for reminding us that love is powerful and healing and is what we need now more than ever. As you sing:
show them the way you feel.
Things are gonna be much better if you only will.

I want that kind of love to come by here
so we all can be more
Garland McWatters, leadership development, leadership training, Dallas, Oklahoma City, Tulsa, Oklahoma

P.S. James Taylor is a 2016 recipient of the 36th Kennedy Center Honors for his contributions to the arts.

Love rules: the message of Jesus

Love rules: the message of Jesus

Christmas has come to be a season of happiness, kindness, and love in celebration of the birth of Jesus. Regardless of your faith, love is a common element in all the major religions.


Love the ultimate motive for Jesus

When Jesus was asked by religious leaders what he considered to be the greatest commandment, he replied without hesitation, to love (Matt. 22:37-40). The single thread of Jesus’ entire campaign was God’s love (John 3:16).

So, as we celebrate Christmas in honor of Jesus’ life, perhaps we should renew our commitment to love one another in God’s way: universally, inclusively, selflessly.

Love is the evidence of God in us, because, as the apostle John, wrote, “God is love,” (1 John 4:8). And as the apostle Paul reminded us, it is this God, “In whom we live, and move, and have our very being,” (Acts 17:25)

Jesus said he wanted us to see God in him, the way he lived and in what he taught.

How love shows itself

If we say we are a Christian nation, then the ways we act toward each other, the laws we pass to define our nation should reflect the spirit of Jesus’ message and example:

  • Judge not, and forgive freely,
  • Lift each other up,
  • Share your wealth liberally,
  • Seek out those who need help the most and offer some measure of comfort and hope,
  • Stand up to the abuses of power, wealth, and entitlement, no matter what they say about you or do to you,
  •  Institutions of government, business, and religion are to serve mankind; not the other way around,
  • Lead through service to all, and expose the self-serving, the self-important, and the self-righteous as non-loving.

When we live the kind of love that Jesus showed every day, we will walk in the light, and we will live in spirit and truth.

And along the way, we will understand what it means to be
Garland McWatters, leadership development, leadership training, Dallas, Oklahoma City, Tulsa, Oklahoma

034: Ta’Na Alexander: a dream to change the world [Podcast]

034: Ta’Na Alexander: a dream to change the world [Podcast]

Ta’Na Alesander is an honoree in the 2016 class of NextGen Under 30 Oklahoma and a winner of the Mark Costello Spirit award. The 2016 class was honored at an awards banquet and program in Oklahoma City.

Ta’Na cites her Choctaw heritage and her mother’s encouragement  as important influences in her upbringing.

In this episode of The Spirit of Leading podcast, I delve into Ta’Na’s experiences and lessons learned that provide her the stability and courage to pursue her dreams.

She is a biomedical research technician at the Oklahoma Medical Research Foundation and is studying biomedical science at Oklahoma City University.

Ta’Na also is active in promoting her Choctaw heritage. She recently learned the Choctaw language in hopes of preserving it for future generations.

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Garland McWatters, author, storyteller, trainer, Tulsa OK

Feelings prove I’m alive

Feelings prove I’m alive

The French philosopher Rene Descartes said, “I think; therefore I am.” I have a slightly different take on that.


I exist because I can experience my life. It’s visceral before it’s intellectual. My body speaks to me from the inside out before I reason anything about myself.

feel joy, pain, happiness, disappointment, anxiety, relief, anger, or love.

I don’t have to know anything to feel everything.

Eventually, I learn what to call those feelings so I can talk about them or seek to ruminate about them to interpret what they mean to me.

How I think about those feelings is what they mean to me. I think; therefore, it is as I interpret it.

In that duality I become a complete self: emotional and intellectual.

When you can get in touch with your complete self
You will be more
Garland McWatters, leadership development, leadership training, Dallas, Oklahoma City, Tulsa, Oklahoma

033: Patrick Conlon: a new normal for a contemporary composer [Podcast]

033: Patrick Conlon: a new normal for a contemporary composer [Podcast]

Patrick Conlon claims that each generation brings a new normal, and his is a genre-busting approach to composing that draws from his love of all styles of music to influence his contemporary compositions. He is the assistant director of the Academy of Contemporary Music at the University of Central Oklaoma located in the Bricktown District of Oklahoma City.

In this episode of The Spirit of Leading podcast, I talk to Patrick about his work, which was a major factor in his being named to the 2016 class of NextGen Under 30 Oklahoma, sponsored by NextGen Leadership Oklahoma.

Patrick also received the inaugural Mark Costello Spirit award, in honor of the late Oklahoma Labor Commissioner known for his optimistic outlook and spirit about the future of Oklahoma.

Patrick is often found working with songwriters and producers and teaching Film Scoring, Music Culture, and Production classes.

An excerpt from one of his compositions, Who Knows if the Moon’s a Balloon?  is featured in this podcast beginning at 7:20 into the program.   Patrick wrote the composition with a band in Los Angeles a few years ago. His inspiration for then piece is an E. E. Cummings poem. Patrick has arranged the composition for a few different genres such as a classical art song and a jazz standard. Patrick describes the version featured in this podcast  as, “a cross-over rock sort of thing.”

Other tracks on the podcast composed by Patrick Conlon include:

  • Experiment 2-2
  • Lush Soundscape
  • IWroteAStringThing
  • Remembrance of Things to Come
  • Mirror Sermon
  • ElectroBassCoolDetectives

Related links

Patrick Conlon website

Patrick Conlon scoring examples listen here

Academy of Contemporary Music @ UCO learn more here

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Garland McWatters, author, storyteller, trainer, Tulsa OK