Wayne Greene is the editorial page editor at the Tulsa World. He clams that the journalistic integrity of the paper is it’s most treasured asset. In this day, when the mainstream media is being attached as FAKE NEWS, it’s imperative that readers and citizens have confidence that their main sources for news are holding themselves to the highest journalistic standards of ethics.
In this episode of The Spirit of Leading Greene recounts his early days as a beat reporter and a city editor to explain the boundaries between reporting and editorializing and how the legitimate press draws distinctions between the two. He takes us into the operational structure of the daily newspaper to help us understand what becomes the news and how newspapers are using today’s social media and internet tools to broaden and deepen their coverage.
Sorry to lay this on you, but most of us live in some form of self-slavery.
We are slaves to our work. Slaves to our hobbies. Slaves to our passions. And for sure, slaves to our habits. Anything that compels us to act in a certain way, even when we know it’s not good for us, is our master, and we are its slave.
I’m not talking about the kind of slavery that physically subjugates people, such as the sex trade, or any indentured enterprise that keeps others subservient either physically or financially.
I’m talking about the kind of self-slavery that we give in to and that we could free ourselves from if we exercised some self-discipline to change our behavior.
Saying, “I don’t have a choice,” is pure-dee B.S. 90+% of the time. I’m leaving a little wiggle room here. I personally cannot think of a situation in my entire life when I did something contrary to my best interest that I did not have a choice to do otherwise.
Rule #1 of INPowerment. I always have a choice.
You might not like the consequences of it, but you usually always have one. It just takes the discipline to make it.
is the the sum total of all the choices I made throughout my life that has brought me to this place and time. Fortunately, I’ve made some good choices. And I’ve also made some doozies that, for the grace of God and the kindness and compassion of friends and strangers, worked out better for me than, by all rights, they should have.
The self-discipline of making better choices might have meant that I would have avoided some of the pain and heartache I both suffered and inflicted.
is just the inner strength to show up and do the right thing, even when you don’t want to or don’t feel like it.
Learn the freedom that
comes from self-discipline
and choose to
We tell a white lie to be kind or tactful, and because we are concerned that even a hint of the truth would lead to hurt feelings, or worse yet–retribution.
The dark side of the white lie is our need for self-deception in the first place. The matter we need to deal with is not the white lie, but the reason it must be told–the truth is inconvenient.
The paradox of the white lie
I can only speak for myself, but I know that I make my excuses to make me feel better about my lapses in accountability. I rationalize. I tell myself the diplomatic untruth about the poor choices I make and their consequences.
I lie to myself, but it’s well intentioned.
Until . . .
The ugly truth is unavoidable. It’s crisis time. What began as a way to feel good about my choices makes me feel like a failure. I decide the best way out is to take rationalizing to a deeper level.
Self-deception is living a bold-faced LIE
When my rationalization deflects the accountability from myself to the point that I comfortably believe my own lies, I have crossed over into the dark world of self-deception where I can now lie to myself with a clear conscience.
I can lie to myself about why my poor health, my bad moods, my lackluster job performance, my failing relationships. I blame others, the economy, my upbringing, my stupid boss, the government, or lousy luck–anything and everyone but myself.
The truth is liberating
There is another way out.
I can get real about my situation and start telling myself the truth–ugly at first, but my best hope to reclaim my self-respect and dignity.
Accountability for my choices is the one clear way to make things better for myself–to act INPowered. When I own my circumstances and resolve to make good choices, no matter how difficult they might be, I can live the truth.
The goal is to be in a place where no one feels like they have to tell me the white lies they think I need to hear to protect my feelings.
The goal is to be
Accountability is a 100-percent situation: either I did, or I did not. As the Star Wars character Yoda, said, “Do or do not. There is no try.”
Willingness is at the core of accountability.
I must be willing to do what it takes to get what I want. Otherwise I cannot hope to succeed. If I have all the resources and support I need, but lack the desire, I will come up short.
I will settle for something less than intended. The danger with that is that I will convince myself that close enough is the same as fully successful. Little by little, I delude myself into believing that I am doing my best when I am far from it.
How bad do you want it?
There is no aspect of my life that is not affected by this: work, finances, health, relationships, you name it.
Accountability is keeping the promises made to yourself.
Any promise I have made to someone else I also made to myself. I am committed to stepping up no matter what. When I don’t, I take the hit.
So I have to ask myself, “How badly to I want to be healthy? How badly do I want to grow my business? How badly do I want my marriage to be amazing? How badly do I want the respect of my friends and peers? How badly am I willing to do what it takes to make all that happen?”
There is no one else to do my part of the heavy lifting. Others might help out at times, but there is no walking away from the task until it is accomplished.
Be excellent to yourself
I deserve excellence. Don’t you? One of my tenets for living the INPowered life is to be excellent to myself. I am accountable for doing just that.
There is leverage and freedom in being accountable. Click here to see what I mean.
I am still learning how to use accountability to make my life better–to be more INPowered. I have renewed my promise to eat excellent food, and by that I mean more healthful food. No more junk food or comfort food as my main course. I also have renewed my promise to walk at least 12 miles a week. I deserve good health, and I alone am accountable for my wellness.
I urge you to accept my accountability challenge and live the excellent life you deserve.
I know that when I am more accountable, I am more
Partisanship is like handling fire. It can provide illumination or destruction depending on how it is managed. Right now, in America, it’s blazing out of control and threatening to consume our democracy.
But there is an escape
A fire needs three ingredients: fuel, oxygen, and heat. Eliminate any one of these, and the fire goes out. We control fires by regulating the balance of these three ingredients.
A partisan takes a side. Nothing inherently wrong with that. We need people to represent different points of view to help us balance our own thinking and to help us find solutions to difficult problems. That’s illuminating.
When out of control, the heat of passion ignites the fuel of content (words and positions) in an oxygen rich environment of “us versus them– If you aren’t with us, you’re against us–winning is all that matters.” That’s destructive.
A leader is a firefighter
Such a leader can manage the fire, but not if they are adding to the fuel or fanning the flames.
Unfortunately, our political discourse right now is fueled by the rhetoric of extremism couched in half-truths and outright lies, fueled by the passion of contempt and hatred toward the opposition, in an environment where partisans are lined up shouting, “Burn, baby, burn,” at each other.
It’s time to isolate the political pyromaniacs and deprive them of the heat and oxygen they need to destroy everything in their path.
We need INPowering leaders who can cool the passions, moderate the message from inflammatory diatribes to reasoned discourse, and regulate the environment by creating breathing space for conversation and dialogue instead of screaming across partisan divides.
These partisan movements run on the fuel of “B.S.” We must hold all sides, even our own, accountable for the truth in context of their message. If you must lie and twist the facts to make your point, then you don’t have a point.
We must dig a fire line around our passions so they don’t race out of control, igniting what would otherwise not be in jeopardy.
We must create an environment where opposing points of view can be discussed with cool heads and compassionate hearts.
True leadership rises above partisanship. It illuminates.
Be that kind of leader, if you desire to be
Love is not usually associated with strong leaders. We go for tough guys, and sometimes women, who cut a swath with their swagger and bravado. They have an edge that keeps others at arms length. When they make things happen, we tolerate their brashness.
But there’s something to be said for the strength and power of love when leaders are INPowered by it and act on it. Love is an X-factor, an intangible force.
Love never breaks its surefooted stride. Swagger can trip under pressure.
Love is other oriented. Bravado is self-centered.
Love is willing to sacrifice self. The brash will throw others under bus before they themselves take a hit.
Love walks with and embraces those who have been elbowed into the shadows. Swagger relishes standing alone in the spotlight.
Love quietly shows itself in compassion and inclusiveness. Bravado talks a good game, but is short on follow through.
Love absorbs derision and insults. Brashness doles them out without apology.
In the end, love makes leaders the real tough guys and women. Love never fails.
Lead from love,
and you will be